This reminds me to feel all of my feelings (even the seemingly unpleasant ones!) and not run from them. I have struggled with perfectionism and this reminds me how a) unrealistic that is and b) that it is actually toxic.
“There are too many people today who instead of feeling hurt are acting out their hurt; instead of acknowledging pain, they’re inflicting pain on others. Rather than risking feeling disappointed, they’re choosing to live disappointed. Emotional stoicism is not badassery. Blustery posturing is not badassery. Swagger is not badassery. Perfection is about the furthest thing in the world from badassery. People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.”
Brené Brown ― Academic/Author